Mama, I am talking to you.

Let’s chat.

Sometimes I think you are too hard on yourself.

We’ve all got growth areas, of course

but I am talking about the beating

we give ourselves when things

stray from perfect.

I don’t need to give a bunch of examples…

you get it.

Here’s what I have to keep telling myself:

There’s always going to be a gap

between perfect and reality.

A L W A Y S.

But there are still days I give myself a verbal lashing.

Moments when I am more brutal to myself

than I would ever be to another mom.

We can be so cruel to ourselves.

When we demand perfection from


and our loved ones

we demean, frustrate and make hope and grace

a scarcity.

I don’t want to live in a place

that is void of grace and hope.

Nothing grows there except contempt

and once it gets going its hard to weed out.


Let’s give grace

to ourselves.

What is it that you are holding on to right now?

Where did reality enter in and

tear your expectations out by the roots?

Choose grace, mama.

Forgive yourself.

Forgive those you love.

Don’t let contempt take root

and instead, remember that

there will always be a gap

between reality and perfection

and that fact…

does not make you a bad mom.



 Searching For Kindling:

Where do you need to extend some grace to yourself? Go ahead, don’t be shy. We all need grace.