Live Your Life: Take Up Your Space

Live Your Life: Take Up Your Space

I overheard your comments to your friend

about the woman across the room.

She, the woman you are 




wasn’t doing anything wrong. 

She said nothing wrong.

She is just living her life, 

taking up her space 

and your insecurity got in the way.

Oh, pardon me, 

I don’t mean to offend. 

Well, actually, I’m okay if I do. 

Everyone has permission

to take up their space 

and just because you 

aren’t thrilled with her choices,

her outfit, 

her boisterous personality

doesn’t mean that you can

take space from her. 

Please refrain from expressing

your insecurity this way.

PermissionGranted is for everyone.

Please recognize that if 

someone rubs you the wrong way, 

has a personality that you 

struggle to appreciate, 

wears clothing that you would

not or has the

audacity to choose

to pursue her 



and purpose…

she is simply giving herself

permission to do so,

just as you are, 

in your own way,

pursing PermissionGranted.

There’s space for all of us. 

All of our creativity, 







There’s enough room for us all.

So each of us have 

a choice to make:

take up our space –

without apology, or 

spend energy making

ourselves small by

attempting to infringe 

on another’s space.

It is kind of a 

easy choice, 

don’t you think?  

Help her take the next step.

Help her take the next step.

She tentatively steps into her own. 

She wades into her space,

seeking to understand that 

it is actually hers,

unsure that she even has

enough within her to fill the space. 

Her eyes flit across the blank,

white walls and cavernous space and 

her heart starts stuttering a bit. 

“I don’t possess what this space needs. 

I don’t know how to 

put this all together 

or how to juggle all of the pieces.” 

Her uncertainty and fear

threaten to derail

her plans to move in,

to take up her space – 

she edges towards the exit.

Perhaps you’ve been there –

on the edge of the unknown 

trying to determine if 

the purpose that calls to you

is enough to make you brave –

maybe you’ve made the leap.

You remember that look –

the one where you look fear

in the eye and just keep going.

When you see someone on the edge,

doubting herself, 

her calling, 

her passion, purpose

and all her possibilities;

doubting whether she 

can or should step into

the space she’s been given – 

meet her there. 

Help her take the next step.

Remind her of truth.

Help her determine what it 

looks like to fill up her space.

Lend her your resources. 

Tell her how you did it.

Collaborate with her,

encourage her, 

pray for her, 

send her chocolate,

and remind her how brave she is.

And if you’re on

the edge right now

doubting yourself  –  

Permission Granted, brave girl,

Let’s take the next steps together.

You’re not alone.

  1. Is there someone who could use some encouragement from you? What is one way that you could walk beside her as she steps into the space she’s been given.
  2. Are you tempted to back away from possibility, purpose, and passion? What is the obstacle you are facing? Take one step towards your purpose. And don’t be afraid to reach out for support, for help, for chocolate.


Have you seen Audacity? Send her my way, please.

Have you seen Audacity? Send her my way, please.


I think they are for other people.

Or just not for me.

Not the big ones, anyway.

I get excited when I cross something 

off my list for the day… 

I see others accomplishing

big audacious things

And I think to myself…

“I wish that was me.”


“Why do they get to do that cool thing?”

And then I get jealous that 

someone else is doing what I want to do

and then also at the same time

I get mad at myself for not 

stepping up and doing 

what is possible. 

It is a little convoluted.

My emotions, doubts and assumptions 

end up all tangled together

and tied up in knots. 

This keeps me bound to where I am – 

where I will always be.

So I am calling myself out. 

Big goals are for me, too. 

They aren’t only for everyone else.

Others pursue their goals 

scared and unsure. 

They are uncertain of how 

it is all going to go.

The final result isn’t 

guaranteed and they still move forward.

We can do hard, scary things. 

Do you doubt that?

Are you waiting for approval?

Waiting for the right moment?

I’ve decided it is now.

I will move forward scared.

I will move forward though I am uncertain.

I will move even though success isn’t guaranteed. 

Maybe this is you, too. 


watching others meet their goals

and wishing it was you. 

You can move forward scared.

You can move forward though you are uncertain.

You can move even though success isn’t guaranteed.

Let’s be audacious, together. 

Permission, granted. 

Name one of your audacious goals. Go ahead and write it down, say it out loud or tell a trusted friend. Or email me! And then? Start working. Big goals are for you, too.

New This Fall! Look In The Mirror And See Purpose.

New This Fall! Look In The Mirror And See Purpose.

Take a walk

in the woods, 

on a paved path, 

in the desert or 

in a tropical paradise. 

Notice your surroundings 

as you take in fall. 

Notice the leaves that have 

changed their colors

or notice the cacti 

that doesn’t experience 

quite as dramatic a change.

Notice the evergreen staying

true to its colors. 

Each one wears the colors

it was made to 

without question, 

without shame, 

without comparison.

Take a walk.

Stand in front of a tree

or a cactus or a tall plant.

Stand there and see it. 

Appreciate the clean air it 

gives back to us. 

The way it stands proud

in whatever form it takes.

The way it blooms, drops its 

leaves, or stays the same color

all the time – 

without explanation or apology.

It grows and changes as it should.

It has a place and a purpose, 

with roots and a growth cycle and 

veins and fruit and seeds. 

It is on purpose for a purpose. 


Take a walk. 

Go stand in front of a mirror.

See yourself. 

You have a place and a purpose. 

 Be you 

without question, 

without shame, 

without comparison.

Appreciate the way 

you bring joy to the world. 

See the way you accent your home 

with grace and colorful words.

You are worthy just as you are. 

Disheveled or all put together, 

wherever you are, as you are –


Understand that you have seasons. 

Realize that you have roots, a growth cycle, 

veins and fruit and seeds. 

You won’t be blooming 

at every moment.

You might not feel like 

you’ve produced a bunch of fruit.

You may feel as though you are being 

buffeted by strong winds. 

Don’t forget your roots. 

Stand confidently. 

You are on purpose,

for a purpose.