Please unpack your lunch.
Put your shoes away.
I love you.
Please put your clothes in the dirty clothes hamper.
Use kind words.
Your family matters most.
Please tie your shoes.
Don’t mess with your sister!
Leave your brother alone!
Jesus loves you more than I do.
These are a sampling of the
reminders I say to my kids
a few times a day,
okay, well, maybe more than a few –
just depends on the day!
Can I be honest?
It can be frustrating
to have to repeat
myself over and over
and I can’t help but think –
If they would just listen….
And yet – I am like them.
I need daily reminders.
Your words matter.
You have a purpose.
God loves you.
You are enough –
but you can’t do it all.
You can rest in God’s provision.
You can let that go.
I get distracted.
I get overwhelmed.
I get focused on what
I wish would change.
I need the reminders
that come through
I’m working hard to be
a better listener but
keep the reminders coming.
Show and tell me
what I forget,
what doubt taints,
and lies discolor.
I need the reminders
of what is true.
The harder I try it seems
the more I fail.
I will be the first to admit that it is
this messed up cycle of
trying too hard
Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory’s book,
You Don’t Have To Try So Hard:
Ditch Expectations and
Live Your Own Best Life,
is a great encouragement to
this mom’s heart.
In fact this book helped me
give myself permission to take a
bath at 8:30 am
because I was so sore.
When you are trying hard –
a morning bath
makes zero sense.
It was what I needed.
I love that this book released me
from unnecessary pressure and at the same time
educated me on how to actually live in
a way that makes sense for me.
They reminded me that
I am made in a unique way
and they addressed how I
might then go about and
hustle less and
They use fun quizzes to help
you understand how you operate.
This book is all about standing up
to the bullies of
people-pleasing, and procrastination.
They’ve got to go!
I feel more empowered to
pursue what is best for me
and my family without feeling
pressure to be something we aren’t.
What is the expectation you would like to
get rid of forever?
What expectation holds you back
instead of propelling you forward?
You Don’t Have To Try So Hard
because guess what?
Participate in the giveaway for this book on my Facebook page!
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I am new to wearing out-there earrings.
Statement earrings that say:
“Look at me!”
I had stuck with the same pair of earrings for years and years
due to sensitive ears.
At least that was my reasoning.
But now at 40 I can’t help but wonder
if it was more than that.
If there was a bit of hiding going on.
Please, don’t look at me.
I want to be seen…
but not fully.
I now own some bold earrings
and they each have a story.
Connection with others makes me brave
and that is what these earrings represent.
People, stories, and reminders.
When I wear these earrings I walk a little taller.
Fringe earrings are what started it all.
I got these on a birthday trip from my hubby
with three of my biggest encouragers.
These earrings remind me that its okay to be fierce.
One pair of earrings is from my husband
and one pair I made.
The hoops make me think of love and the
jade globes remind me to give voice to my creativity.
One pair reminds me of the shop owner who said,
“You are a great momma.”
The copper teardrop pair are from a friend who sees the best in me.
The macrame ones my sister also owns
because we both fell in love with them. #Sisters
I wear them and think of her and
remember to be authentically myself.
And to maybe give her a call.
It’s such a small thing.
But we all need reminders.
To be strong,
to be creative
and to be our most authentic selves.
Which earrings shall I wear today?
Which reminder do I need?
Searching For Kindling.
What reminds you of who you truly are?
What helps you remember to be brave?
What are the stories that remind you to be authentic?
Share in the comments!
Go ahead and feel it all.
There’s a lot on your plate.
The world won’t come crashing down
if you go ahead and feel it.
I know it might seem like it might.
To allow yourself to sink into all that
is in your heart is
asking for an enormous wave to
crush you, flip you,
disorient and scare you.
How’s a heart supposed to hold it all?
The regular daily stuff, the big daily stuff,
a friend who is sick,
families torn apart by policy, by
systemic racism, by bitterness,
by trial after trial.
If you feel it all –
if you let the wave take you for a ride
you will feel unmoored,
undone and unsure.
That’s what waves do.
But they also move you.
Move you to where you are
supposed to be.
The wave will put you back on land
in a place that you probably will not recognize.
Your lungs will gasp for air.
Your legs will be tentative.
Your hands will reach for the
texture of solid ground.
Your heart will feel first
and will direct your steps.
What do you see first?
What are the needs?
Big waves have a way of
a way of mooring us to what actually matters –
and what our part is in it.
So let the wave of all that is in your heart move you,
its okay to be tentative, but be confident
in the knowledge that you were placed
exactly where you are –
on this shore, this exact span of sand,
to walk towards the needs of your world.
May your steps be propelled by love,
may your hands be open,
your passion burning
and your gifts and talents engaged.
Sometimes I don’t know what you need.
And even if I did know
I am not sure that I could be it.
You are tall and long
with big emotions
and you have a lot of words.
You push my buttons.
And I suppose I probably push yours.
And there are times that I wish
I could snuggle you and make it all okay
like I did when you were so much smaller.
It is harder to know
how to make it okay
and sometimes there isn’t really
a way to even do that.
Sometimes my heart is overwhelmed
with my love for you and my frustration with you
and how I want to be able to help you
and still be what you need
every now and then.
And then tonight happened.
“Come and lay down with me, Mommy”.
And my heart, mind and mouth said,
You lifted your spiderman blanket
so I could snuggle into
the little furnace you created.
We talked a little bit about your
test tomorrow and
I prayed for you.
Then you rolled to your tummy,
flung your arm over my tummy
and laid your head on my chest.
And then you fell asleep.
And in that moment my heart
was reminded that sometimes
you need small things from me
my patient presence,
my tickle monster,
my silly jokes,
my dance with me,
my arms to hold you while you sleep.
Thanks, baby boy for the reminder
that while I can’t be everything
you need (and I shouldn’t be)
there are some instances
where I am enough.
Searching For Kindling
Name five small things that you do to love your children well. Think of some small moments with your kids that have filled your mama tank.
I am strong as steel.
I will surprise you.
I can make dinner, unload the dishwasher,
brainstorm for an article and help my child study for a test all at the same time.
I am a soft place to land.
I have stretch marks and an untoned tummy –
I am my own beautiful.
I am not wonder woman… I am me
and that is enough.
I will fight for those I love.
I am multidimensional.
I am a partner.
I am becoming.
I am passionate.
I am made in the image of God.
I will write my own story.
Women before me have led the way
to where we are now
and I join hands with those I walk with
today to make
for our daughters and sons.
I am woman.